Towards healing from abortion
Through my own abortion experience I have come to realise many women feel the same—that it can be difficult to gain any sense of closure. There is no grave to visit, no tangible way of remembering. Until now.
In a nutshell, the Buttons Project aims to collect buttons—thousands of buttons—to commemorate the babies we never met. To enable anyone affected by abortion—not only women, but fathers, grandparents, siblings, “to do something when there is nothing you can do.”
For some it will be a way of simply remembering, for others a step on the journey of healing. Some buttons come with stories, some don't—and all of them will be displayed in a respectful manner. Physical buttons received will be sewn on wall hangings and other buttons submitted via our Virtual Buttons Memorial.
Together we will create a memorial. To remember, to grieve, to love. What happened mattered.
See Marina's story -
Watch the "Little Button" music video written by Richard Dawson, with Jackie Lowry and performed by Debbie Shepherd.
Why a button?
It is easy to find and easy to send. It can be unique—representing a personal loss. It can symbolise closure, or security. Buttons are long-lasting, though fabric may fade or tear. Buttons join; buttons bring together. We are not alone.
in memory of...
Hover your cursor over the buttons for at least 3 seconds to see the message that came with the buttons.
You can also visit our virtual Buttons Memorial.
send a button
The button that you choose is special and unique to you, representing a life lost. So when you select your button, I would suggest getting two—one to send and one to keep for yourself. Or you may like to take a photo of it.
It is also important to remember the date of when you sent your button. You are welcome to send a physical button or via the Virtual Buttons Memorial. The physical buttons received, are catalogued and being sewn on to wall hangings. These will eventually be displayed in an appropriate place as a memorial and a safe place to visit without judgement.
If you file the date of when you sent your button, you will have safe place to visit and a better chance of spotting it if you visit the memorial display. All correspondence will be acknowledged where return addresses are supplied. No names or identifying details will be used anywhere.
Check out the Buttons Project Facebook page for regular updates.
To send your button:
Please email email@example.com for postal address, as we have closed post office box. Thank you.
You can also send your button to our virtual Buttons Memorial
Partner with us
To provide mental, emotional, and spiritual healing to any person who has been affected by abortion, whether that be the mother, father or other persons.
To provide compassionate, non-judgmental, and genuine care for women and men seeking healing for dealing with abortion grief or regret.
Provide a safe place for stories to be heard – you are not alone.
To bring hope and possibilities into someone’s life, who is struggling with the impact of having an abortion.
To facilitate post abortion recovery programmes and online support.
To connect with counselling services and form networking groups.
To never stop learning and resource initiatives that help men and women in their journey of healing.
Speak at seminars, community groups and whenever the opportunity arises to educate and bring awareness to Post Abortion Stress.
To take the time and be the reason someone feels welcomed, seen, heard, valued, loved and supported.
To collect and display buttons as a symbolic way to acknowledge, grieve and commemorate the babies lost to abortion.
Buttons Project is a not-for-profit NZ Charitable Trust CC51026
Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much. We welcome donations, whether they’re a one-off, regular donation or a legacy donation—your contribution, no matter how big or small, will make a difference for women, men and families across our community!
You can make a donation via our Give a Little page
To become an Automatic Payment donor or to make an online donation via internet banking, please use these bank details:
Buttons Project Trust BNZ 02-0120-0265177-000
Any contributions you make are tax deductible. Please use your full name as a reference when you set up your automatic payment or online donation.